Business Owners: Stop Asking for Permission
The more people you have to ask for permission, the more dangerous a project gets.
― Alain de Botton
One of the biggest limitations I see when I’m working with clients is that they are always looking for outside validation when they make decisions. They want to make sure their choices will be approved by those in their social circle. They believe this makes their behavior “right”. It feels safe.
The result is often a self made prison.
Waiting on others’ acceptance is a dream killer. It’s a promise that you’ll never stand out. Your boldness will die before it sees the dawn, and your life and your performance will be average at best. Probably worse.
So how do you avoid the “Average Trap”?
How do you avoid feeling helpless. Like a stale, carbon copy of everyone else?
Stop asking for permission.
You must learn to trust yourself. Make decisions that are best for you and those who depend on you. People won’t agree with you. It’s ok. Even when you think you’re pleasing one group, you’re offending another.
Being loved by everyone is a seductive illusion, but doesn’t exist.
If you actually knew what everyone around you believed, you wouldn’t find a SINGLE PERSON who agrees with you on everything. So stop pretending. Like running on a treadmill, pleasing others will wear you out without taking you anywhere.
All courses of action are risky, so prudence is not in avoiding danger (it’s impossible), but calculating risk and acting decisively. Make mistakes of ambition and not mistakes of sloth. Develop the strength to do bold things, not the strength to suffer.
— Niccolò Machiavelli
It’s ok to be different. In fact, it’s not optional because you are. Anything else is merely denial.
The world NEEDS you to be different. It’s how you create unique value in the world and why people love you!
If you’re a business owner, you’ve done this before. You had a dream and you trusted yourself enough to make it happen. It changed you forever.
However, once isn’t enough.
That one decision altered the trajectory of your life. But one powerful moment isn’t all that you’re capable of creating. You can do it again. And again.
You can live in boldness on a daily basis and in all areas of your life. You simply need to choose it.
Stop eating the same garbage as everyone around you if it doesn’t suit you. Decide what aligns with your goals. Clearly identify your tastes and eat accordingly!
Forget social engagements that bore you to death. Instead begin planning your own activities and invite the people YOU want in your life. Build your own community. On purpose.
If you’re not saving enough money or creating the financial results you want, stop doing what everyone else is doing. Think for yourself. Learn about new options and THEN decide what is right for you!
Nearly all of my clients have had to “buck the system” to create the financial, social, or lifestyle rewards they want. They decided that the ‘status quo’ wasn’t enough for them. It wasn’t a fit. Then they made a new choice. One that DID fit.
To get what you want, you must give up what no longer serves you.
So stop asking for permission. To be successful, healthy, wealthy, happy, or free!
Decide what YOU want and then begin cutting your own path! Plow your own field and plant the seeds you want to harvest. It may not sound easy, but consider the alternative.
Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.
— Ralph Waldo Emerson
Choosing your own path truly is the key to success. It’s what has created the best parts of your life, so don’t be afraid of it.
Throw open the doors to your life and let the light in. You’ll be exposed to the elements, but that is where life begins.
Sometimes your decisions don’t work out, so what. At least you made your own choices. Fought for what you believed. You will learn as you grow. It’s not about being ‘perfect’ or ‘right’, it’s about being YOU!
And when your decisions DO work out for you, people will call you “lucky” and ask how you did it.
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